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How I Use My Vibrator


A very personal guide from Miss D: 

Something my girlfriends tell me they find really helpful is when I talk to them straight up about how I use my vibrators for maximum pleasure. So I've decided to blog this vibrator guide with a personal touch for the girlfriends of the girlfriends out there!

"Woah isn't that a little TMI (Too Much Information for my unabbreviated readers out there) to give to your friends?" you may be asking right now - well, no. And here's why: If there's something that's making me or my friends' lives just a little bit better/happier, you're going to wanna know the secret, right? Even if that means being the one asking right out: so how do you use a vibrator? I mean, it's obvious being as honest and frank with someone is one of the biggest bonding tools (more so for women).

So for me, this is how I go about using a vibrator, straight up.

I suggest you "turn off" your anxiety and stressors in your everyday life so you can focus on a little "me" time & this is SO important. Wanna know why? Because without turning those things off you're consciously avoiding being pleasured.

Without full participation of your mental state, your physical state isn't going anywhere. They've done tests on this to experiment how powerful our minds are and they're not joking when they say they've proven women can think their way to an orgasm.

I SERIOUSLY recommend you give this a go. For some it may be subconsciously natural to struggle focusing on being stimulated by the vibrator or with masturbation in general if you can't stop thinking about other shit that ISN'T mentally stimulating imagery and that may be something you need to work on - but for those who don't and want to test to see how much control they have, next time you're masturbating [specifically with a vibrator] think of the most random shit you can think of.

  • Whilst building an orgasm - but not completely getting there, think of going for a walk -to the post office! Think of driving. Think of anything un-stimulating and voilà, you've got your vibrator on your pussy and nothing is happening (boo). No sparks, no fireworks.
  • Now switch to a thought of that hot guy/girl in that movie doing that hot thing etc etc, and REALLY focus on the sexiness of it, succumb to any temptation that is arousing and notice how good you feel.

Fantasising is one good key for guys and girls to keep focused on and controlling your thoughts in it's sexiest form is healthy.

Ergo STAY ON TOPIC & STAY SEXY (San Diego)

If you struggle to focus during sex, the fantasies help just as much. More than once I've found myself looking at my lover and while he's cute and all and I'm stimulated, if I look at his face- his eyes, I get distracted by the smallest things, his pupil dilation, what his mouth is doing, should I say something? Is he enjoying himself? Wait am I? And there you go, you've lost your head. Down the rabbit hole of too many unanswered questions that you probably should ask during sex because where's the sexiness in asking if he brought in the mail!? These thoughts are completely normal, while unhelpful, still normal. There's this little chemical called prolactin and I'd like to think it may be the cause of these thoughts (but without sufficient research on the female mind/orgasm I'll find out later). Scientists have found it spikes immediately after orgasm and reminds us of the everyday shit so we don't need to think about more sex, unless... you know, multiples.

B r e a t h i n g. As mentioned in my guide: How to use a vibrator, something I will always recommend to my girlfriends who are struggling to climax alone or with a partner and fast enough so their boyfriend doesn't beat them to it, is DEEEEEEP BREEEATHING. The more you inhale, the more oxygen you're sending around your brain and around your body. I don't know SPECIFICALLY why breathing inwards builds an orgasm LIKE ITS NOBODY'S BUSINESS but it DOES and IT'S AMAZING. Caps for emphasis ;)

  • So breathe in deeply, focus on that breath, letting little bits of air go slowly whilst mentally focusing on how you're rubbing it out feels good. 

[WOAH slow down Lyd, so many things to do here, so just to go back, you recon mentally focusing on pleasurable things only, specifically the stimulation happening down south & breathing- well inhaling deeply, softly letting the breath go only to inhale deeply again? Yeah cool gotcha.]

And my last tip, is positioning. Seriously taking inspiration and quoting my yoga teacher here, but "focus on where the tension is in your body" but DON'T LOSE THE TENSION. I've been working on my posture and my hips lately & recently incorporated certain positions into my masturbating techniques and I'm surprised and pleased (literally) to say, my yoga teacher was right... well kinda.

  • Start by pushing your chest and pubic bone away from each other, almost in a backbend/straightening your back - try that one when you're in the right position with a vibe, i.e on your back, on your belly, cowgirl.
  • If your butt (glutes) are lacking some tension I HIGHLY recommend clenching that booty - tightly. It's amazing what part-twerking/tensing-your-ass-cheeks can do when you're using a vibrator face down [in a pillow] ass up (great position for a vibe) for a text example of what this looks like, you know this emoticon? 
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  • well pretend the hands and arms are your legs and feet, replace that smiley face with your very happy pussy whilst lying on your belly with your booty in the air and face down. Pushing your legs out sideways - splits style, and then more from the knees, is sooo stimulating. All about that tension BAYBAY!

And there you have my simple steps. You have a good night now, ya hear.

For more tips click on masturbating techniques or many other ways on how to use a vibrator.

For any girls out there who would love to share their tips and tricks for how they get the most out of the vibes and be featured in a blog either anonymously or not please email our info team at miss.d@missdemeanours.com 

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