Or, "why should I masturbate?"
We all know about vibrators, we see them in shops, on TV - what with their weird shapes, sizes and colours but how much do we really know about why women should own one?
When it comes to the clitoris and the G-spot (and, girl, does it come), there’s really nothing to be stressed about – in fact, the nifty little organ will literally remove any fear and stress signals during an orgasm! As long as it’s ‘rubbed the right way’.
Women who masturbate are usually more comfortable with their bodies and with sex in general.
So not only are you giving yourself a great time but you’re also subconsciously building up that good ol’ self-esteem and experience of what feels epic, so you can have it EVERY TIME!
What I want you to take away from this guide is a better understanding of the importance of self pleasure and how to not only get the best out of pleasuring yourself but also build up that s w e e t, s w e e t confidence and control for when you plan on using it with someone else.
Besides, if you can’t do it yourself, how can you expect someone else to?
Unfortunately, only 25% of women climax during sex with their partner ☹ SO LET’S BRING THIS NUMBER THE F*%K UP!
A few things to know so you can make the most of your play –
What am I doing with my clit?
Your clitoris is one of the most special parts of your body and should be treated as such! Would you believe it is purely designed for pleasure!?
Similar to a penis, it is filled with erectile tissue which means when it’s aroused, it fills with blood (like Damon from Vampire Diaries - yum) & wow does it grow!
You’ve gotta spend some time, either with your fingers or a toy, to see what feels good for you. Rubbing it in a back and forth motion will always help BUT using a toy is way more exciting and less than half the effort needed to “g e t t h e r e”.
Also, just to be clear, your clit is NOT responsible for your periods or pregnancy or even how you pee – it’s literally just hanging around for a good time, like… How awesome can this thing get? #pleasurebutton
REMEMBER: Between 90-95% of women get off on clitoral stimulation - it really is for everybody.
In the [similar] words of Juliet-
What’s in an orgasm?
Picture this, you’re pleasuring yourself as you should and about 8000 nerves are being stimulated. The muscle tension builds up in your bum, thighs and genitalia, right up until your body involuntarily releases all that tension in a delicious explosion of euphoria and vaginal fireworks!
I’ll repeat that, cuz why not – 8000 nerves…
Touching these nerves with good vibrations in the right way is going to lead to some epic orgasms!
The more it gets stimulated, the more the clitoris will start to move around, even hiding under the clitoral hood – cheeky bugger.
This is why it can be confusing when giving direction, it’s not yours or their fault!
Believe it or not, you can actually tell how good an orgasm is by counting the amount of contractions, or w a v e s you experience;
And like snowflakes – no two orgasms are alike.
Using a vibrator can produce waves of up to 5-10 (clitoral & internal)
Miss D’s Recommendation:
Using a vibrator DURING sex can produce 10-15 waves! (Clitoral and vaginal – woo!)
LISTEN UP: A woman’s threshold will drop after her first orgasm, which means it’ll be a lot easier to climax shortly after the first = multiple orgasms.
You can use your fingers, or for a faster and better experience you can use Miss D’s toys to quickly get you where it feels good!
What we’ve learned:
Key benefits of masturbating | Self exploration
- High self esteem
- Better body image
- More active sex life
- Your clit = pleasure world
- Orgasms are the shit
- How to use a vibrator
- Biology makes things hotter
- Everything’s better with a vibrator and a lover
Masturbation is for everyone at any age, like with any new skill or sport, the more you play the better you’ll get and that’s what we’re aiming for here: to discover what you do and don’t like - only you have those answers...